THE WHAT
We tell ourselves we’re protecting our peace by avoiding the hard things. The difficult conversation. The big decision. The risk that makes our stomach drop.
Avoidance doesn’t bring relief—it breeds worry.
That thing you’re dodging? It doesn’t disappear. It lingers in the back of your mind, growing heavier, louder, harder to ignore. The more you run from it, the more power it gains.
WHY IT MATTERS
The Avoidance-Worry Loop: Why It Feels Safe but Isn’t
At its core, avoidance is an attempt to reduce discomfort. The problem is, it doesn’t resolve the issue—it magnifies it.
Here’s how it plays out-
- You avoid something stressful– Immediate relief. It feels good.
- The problem lingers in your mind -You start imagining worst-case scenarios.
- Worry takes over -“What if I can’t handle it?” “What if I fail?”
- Avoidance becomes a habit -The more you avoid, the harder it is to face.
Over time, this cycle keeps you stuck, feeding chronic worry and making even small decisions feel overwhelming.
TAKE CONTROL BACK
Identify What You’re Avoiding
- Am I avoiding this out of fear, lack of clarity, overwhelm, rebellion, or uncertainty?
- What’s the cost of continuing to avoid it?
Take Small, Manageable Steps
Instead of overwhelming yourself, start with low-stakes actions:
Avoiding a conversation?
- Record yourself talking about it first. Then watch it back.
Avoiding a project?
- Set a 10-minute timer and begin.
Avoiding a decision?
- What’s your intuition telling you? Get really still and listen.
Rebuild Trust in Yourself
Confidence comes from action. Each time you face something you’ve been avoiding, you prove to yourself that you can handle it.
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